October 6th, 2012 by Regina Brett
We’ve talked about the role of women at work for the past two shows on The Regina Brett Show on WKSU 89.7 FM.
The first show was on women who opt out of work and into family. The second, was on women as breadwinners and stay at home dads. We’re living in an age when men and women have more flexibility in how they define themselves and their roles in the family.
I’ve worked since I was 16. Every single job, even the ones I hated, gave me tools for life and opened the door to the next better job.
The best job? Being a mom. I was a single parent for 18 years. Oh, the guilt I carried over working full time while raising my daughter.
And yet she says it taught her to be strong and independent. Strong enough to leave her career in June to stay home with her 3 year old son and year old daughter. It’s the right decision for her and for them.
When it comes to how much time you spend at work, there’s no right way and there’s no wrong way. There’s simply the best way you can choose right now.
We make the choice to work full time or part time or not at all and we think we’ve made peace with that choice the day we make the decision, but day after day, sometimes hour by hour, we have to find that peace again and again.
The path we choose right now will change when the road ahead bends or ends or twists and turns. Then we have to decide all over again: What is best for me? My family? My spouse?
The truth is, no one knows for sure. We’re all just doing the best we can to balance work and family and have an integrated, whole, happy life.
The right path today might be the wrong path next week or next month. The key is to do the best you can with what you have right where you are. And every morning when you wake up, life offers you another chance to make it better…it’s called today.